‘Change’ is the most
sought word consciously or unconsciously by all of us. We all want to change
for the better! It could be better person, habits, values, job, earnings,
relations etc. But it is quite challenging for most of us to adapt to new
practices and habits. We find ourselves as the chief ‘enemy’. Why do we behave
the way we do? Well, we need to be aware
of:
1.
Homeostasis:
The unconscious tendency to be drawn irresistibly towards doing what we have
always done. It is the natural mechanism built in us to function automatically
in many areas. It is this mechanism that keeps our body temperature at 98.6
Fahrenheit. It also maintains the chemical balance within our bodies. It has
the tendency to keep us in the ‘comfort zone’ whenever we do something contrary
to our current habits. It’s nature’s way to keep us consistent with the way we’ve
been in the past. But we should remember, “Everything we want is out of our
comfort zones.”
2.
Psycho
sclerosis- This is can be termed as “hardening of
attitudes.” It is the tendency to fall in love with our own ideas and to defend
them against new ones. Many of us remain average because we fail to be open to
new ideas. We become too rigid. The mark of superior people is that they are
mentally flexible to accept new ideas.
3.
Power
of Love: Much of what we do is to get love or compensate
for the lack of love in our early childhood. This emotion exerts strong
influence on our choices and decisions. Almost everything we do – the goals we
set, the dreams we dream, the commitments are influenced by the power of love. When
we want to change, everything we do must be consistent with the amount of love
and respect we have for ourselves and that others have for us. We should start
by loving ourselves.
4.
Power
of Suggestion: Our mind is affected by everything
that goes around us. The suggestive environment around us has an impact on
everything we become or what happens to us. Much of the suggestive environment
around us is negative The media, the people who whine and carp, the “ain’t it
awful” talking etc. We need to have control over this suggestive environment
around us purposefully. We should create our own positive world conducive to
the person we want to become.
Knowledge
and awareness of why we behave the way we do is the first step that we all can
take towards bona fide change!